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Let’s be honest! Criticism can hurt. No one enjoys hearing something negative or finding out that everything you are doing isn’t perceived as wonderful by others as you hoped it would be. Criticism, however, is a part of leadership and, if handled correctly, doesn’t have to be a bad part of leadership. Learning to let criticism work for you rather than against you is a key to maturing as a leader.
Recently I posted 5 Wrong Ways to Respond to Criticism. A companion post is in order.
Here are 5 right ways to respond to criticism:
Criticism accompanies leadership. The only way to avoid criticism is to do nothing. If a leader is taking an organization somewhere, and really even if he or she isn’t, someone will criticize his or her efforts. The way a leader responds to criticism says much about the maturity of the leader.
Here are 5 wrong ways to respond to criticism:
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Tweet After one of my posts about controlling leadership, I received this question: Any chance there is an upcoming post or two on how/when/where to confront a controlling leader? Especially…
I have written a good deal recently about controlling leadership. As most of my posts do, this stems from current or past experience in leadership. Within the past 6 months I have talked with close to a dozen individuals in ministry who are experiencing this type of leader. It is effecting their personal leadership, as well as the health of their organization.
If you missed any of these posts you can read:
7 Warning Signs You May Be a Controlling Leader
3 Results of Controlling Leadership
7 Reactions to Controlling Leadership
The obvious most frequent question I receive as a result of these posts involves what to do about a controlling leader? I previously wrote a post about “leading up” called 5 Ways to Influence those Who Lead You, but it addresses a leader who may not be giving you a seat at the table, but not one who is necessarily a controlling leader. Controlling leadership appears to be a more difficult issue. A leader who attempts to control everything within his or her realm is much harder to influence.
So, here’s my best answer. Here are three ways to respond to a controlling leader:
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One of my pet peeves in leadership is the controlling leader. I recently wrote some warning signs that indicate a leader may be one. You can read that post HERE. I’ve written about this subject before, but I keep seeing the type. Controlling leaders are in every type of organization, including in the church. I was recently saw a controlling leader
The main reason I’m so opposed to controlling leaders is that it is counter-productive to healthy organizations…and I love healthy organizations.
In fact, here are 3 results I see in teams and organizations with a controlling leader:
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