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I did men’s ministry for many years before I went into vocational ministry. Recently I felt led to address the young men in our church. One Saturday morning, I invited men aged 35 and under to join me as I shared some thoughts with them. Basically I said to them what I wish had been said to me at that age. The response from the guys who attended has been amazing. They want more.
In the process of planning and praying for this event, God did something to my heart. I’m still processing all that means, but I know it involves being more intentional addressing concerns I have for what I see as a need for more godly men to lead in their homes, communities and churches.
This week I received this email.
Make sure you have at least one person in your life…
A danger exists even in completing the things you have to do as a routine…
- Routine assignments at work…
- Routine in relationships…
- Routine in physical activities…
- Routine in daily quiet times…
- Routine in weekly calendaring…
I call it the danger of the mundane…
The things we always do, as good as those things may be, can become so routine that they begin to be seen as more of a drag than a pleasure.
Some of the dangers of the mundane include:
We are on a few days vacation this week. We came with another couple to the San Francisco area. Cheryl and I have traveled extensively, and we’ve been to California, but never to this part of the state. Even only after our first full day we love this place! It was a gorgeous day and we explored the famous Lombard Street, Fisherman’s Wharf, and walked every inch of Alcatraz today. In addition, I ran 6 miles along the bay this morning. We came back to our hotel exhausted.
This is not an atypical day for Cheryl and me on vacation. On every vacation we are never still, seeing everything we can in the time we are away, and we often go home more tired than when we left. That’s how we do “vacation”.
How do you do it?
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I don’t do much marriage counseling these days. I have a master’s in counseling and spent a few years almost exclusively doing counseling, but the size of the church and my role leading and developing the staff takes more of my time now. As a pastor, knowing that my opportunity is limited in offering on-going counseling, I have learned that it is important to assess the health of the marriage early in the counseling process if I have any hopes of making progress.
Here is one method I found helpful. I ask each spouse to answer this short questionnaire separately: