The Search for Authentic Leaders

Authenticity is a necessary trait for leaders these days…

People are less likely to follow people they don’t feel are transparent or real…

Here’s a word of advice to leaders…

In your attempt to protect your reputation…

Don’t hide your true identity…

The fact is that your painful past and failures…

May be used to heal someone else’s brokenness…

Encourage them to keep trying…

Or, simply help them trust you more…

If you want to protect your reputation…do it with the one you’re shaping for the future…

Your past is your past…you can’t change it now…

Let it be used to help others…

By the way…this advice work for pastors too…

That’s even a Biblical concept…

He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.

2 Corinthians 1:4

Be honest…do the people you lead know the real you?

How do you ensure transparency in your leadership?

A Life Message: Asking the Right Question

I met with a young man recently who is passionate about growing in his relationship with God, being a better husband and father, becoming more active in the church and community and excelling in his work.

He’s sensing an internal, self-induced tension to do more and be better in each area of his life.

His question to me was basically, how can he balance all the things he wants to do or feels he needs to be doing?

I certainly understood the question. It’s a pressure I’ve experienced many times in my life, especially during certain seasons. In fact, I’m sensing it again as I entered the empty-nester phase of life. I do believe in order to be successful with all the demands a person has, one has to get better personally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and relationally, before we can achieve more but, I think there may be a better answer than that.

I gave him one word of advice that has helped me during those seasons. Perhaps you need to hear this as well.

I challenged him to consider if he was asking the right question.

Instead of asking…

What should I be doing?

Maybe he should be asking…

Who do I want to be?

I have found that when I consider the person I want to be that the actions I need to take to get there become clearer. In fact, many of the actions I may have thought I needed to take, become less important, because they don’t seem to help me become who I say I want to be.

Which question are you or do you most need to be asking?

Learning the True Health of a Team: Niche Consulting Offer

I want to offer a special niche consulting opportunity

Before I share it, please consider these questions:

  • Do you realize the influence you have as a leader and what effect it has on your team or organization?
  • How much would it be worth to know the real health of your organizational culture?
  • Would knowing ways to improve in your leadership be helpful to you?
  • Are you as a leader willing to be vulnerable to find the holes in your leadership?

Let’s face it. Leaders are often the last to hear of a problem on a team. Even the best leaders have blind spots they can’t see, but others see clearly. Wise leaders are open to the input of others, in an attempt to improve personally and assist the team or organization they lead.

One thing that has helped me improve in this area has been annually allowing my team to anonymously evaluate my leadership. You can read about my process HERE.

I learned from my team that my understanding of where we were and they way I was perceived, as a leader, was not always reality. My staff said some hard things to hear, but they were dead-on accurate and by adjusting my leadership to the needs of my team, I’ve become a better leader and my team has become a better team.

I want to help your team do the same.

Here is the deal:

I’m offering a special consulting opportunity for your team and leadership. I will come to your location, conduct an anonymous survey of your people’s perception of your leadership, share the results with you personally, discuss ways for improvement, and then bring the team together to discuss our findings. What I’ve discovered is that many times there are very simple adjustments to be made, better ways to communicate, or things I should be doing differently that I never knew were a problem.

This is not for the weak leader, but if you are confident you want to be a better leader, I believe I can help.

Here’s what I can promise:

  • My goal will be to protect the leader and make you better. I am pro-leader. This will be done in a way that honors your leadership.
  • You will gain insights into how you lead and learn ways you can improve.
  • This will not be as painful as it seems, but the rewards will be noticeable.
  • Your people will feel valued and appreciated for you allowing them to speak into your life.
  • You will be a better leader if you adjust your leadership according to our findings.

Just curious about this process? Send me a confidential email and let’s talk about the process? I’m limited to 12 clients this year, so act fast now.

[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]

Hearing a Word from God

One of the most frequent questions I receive is how to hear from God. Yesterday I met with a man trying to discern from God a change in ministry setting. This morning I met with a young man trying to discern God’s voice. Shortly after I hear from an older pastor with the same question. Honestly, I’m not sure why they are asking me…it’s something I’m still learning…but I have thought a great deal about the subject.

Bottom line, there must be some people ready to hear from God. That’s a good thing in my opinion.

If you are trying to hear from God about an issue or just generally, let me share a few things I’ve written previously.

First, let me say that my favorite passage on hearing from God is Isaiah 30:15-21. I once wrote about it HERE.

Here are some other posts. The titles speak for themselves:

How to Hear God’s Voice

How to Hear From God

Jeremiah 18 Series

Are you looking to hear a word from God? What advice would you give?

Being Purposeful Isn’t Always Easy

Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days John 11:5-6

Oh…the stress of leadership…

Jesus chose to stay, even though His friends were hurting…

Not because He was cruel…

Not because He didn’t care…

We know it wasn’t easy on Jesus…

It’s during this story we find the shortest verse in the Bible.

“Jesus wept.” (John 11:35)

Jesus wasn’t immune to the pain of people around Him.

Jesus waited, because a higher purpose was a stake.

(You can read the story HERE if you don’t know or remember it…)

It’s a good reminder…

Many times doing the right thing is the harder choice…

But, it’s still the right thing to do…

That’s true in leadership, in parenting, in friendships, in marriage…

Can you think of examples where choosing the right thing is hard to do?

What is one right thing you know you need to do, but you know it will be difficult?

Want more? For more about Jesus today, you might read:

25 Statements of Jesus that will Change Your Life

7 Questions of Jesus that will Change Your Life

Scripture Memorization, Week 20

Jehoshaphat was a great king, because he followed the ways of God. In an incredible example of humility, Jehoshaphat was willing to admit, in front of the people he was leading, that he didn’t have all the answers.

When facing a powerful rival nation, Jehoshaphat prayed a prayer. This week’s memory verse comes from that prayer.

Here is this week’s memory verse:

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, not knowing what step to take next? If you do, and if you want to join me this week in learning this short, simple prayer, simply comment on this post with the word “Amen!”

Together, this week, we’ll look to God for answers we do not have.

Organizational Learning From Google

I read recently that the creators of Google weren’t looking to create Google when they discovered the complex way of indexing pages. They were working on a research project for their PhD program and stumbled upon the genius of google page ranking, did a little more exploration, and the rest is the incredible history of Google. In fact, I also read where, learning from their history, Google allows employees up to 20% of their time to explore new ideas and innovation.

It made me think about how organizations function. Are we organized to discover the next Google?

Let your team explore and you’ll discover some great stuff. Finding the “next big thing” is certainly more difficult without the exploration.

Plus, it’s damaging long-term for a team to be limited in this area of growth potential. If your team isn’t freed to explore:

  • They grow bored
  • Growth stalls
  • Valuable discoveries are never found.

What new insights is your team discovering?

More importantly perhaps, are they being positioned for discovery? Do they even have the freedom, built into your system?

Scripture Memorization, Week 19

This week I encountered several people living in the bondage of the law. They were beating themselves up for not being able to maintain every rule, many of which were set by man and are not even clearly defined by Scripture.

The death of Jesus satisfied the wrath of God against people who could never keep His laws. The law portrays our sin, because it defines sin for us. We wouldn’t know it was wrong to lie, for example, unless that standard had been set. Jesus removed the burden of the law and provided for us His grace. Grace doesn’t give us a license to sin again. It gives a freedom to truly live. We are freed from the power sin had in our life.

Do you need this week’s memory verse? Here it is:

Friday Discussion: Eternal Security

A recent college graduate from our church sent me an email recently. She’s struggled with her spiritual past. She became a believer early in life, got off track for a while, and now she’s on fire for God, Her dilemma is whether she lost her salvation during that time. She wonders what would have happened to her eternally had she died during her time of wandering. She wanted to know why I believe in eternal security.

I realize I’m stepping in dangerous territory with this discussion question. This issue divides people theologically as much as any other. Some of my closest believing friends would disagree with me here, believing that one can lose their salvation, but I believe in eternal security. I am not a theologian so I look for simple answers.

Here is my quick answer to my friend:

Dear _______,

These are standard questions most people wrestle with at some point in life. Great questions.

Here’s a short answer. I believe in eternal security, because:

  • The Bible says “Believe in the Lord Jesus and you SHALL be saved”…not you might be saved…

  • The Bible says “Do not worry”…How could you not worry if you were constantly wondering if you’ve gone too far…if you had lost your salvation?

  • It takes grace to be saved, why would it take works to remain saved?

  • Works are the result of salvation, not to earn or keep salvation…

  • Was there ever a time when you were “living in sin” when you didn’t “believe”? I’d say probably not…you may not have looked like a believer…but Jesus looks at the heart, not the outward appearance…

  • If we start drawing lines of how to lose salvation, where does the line stop? Could we ever remain saved? It’s just like the law…Jesus even added higher standards…one bad thought…one lust…one hatred…one dishonoring of parents…one idol placed in front of God…and we’re doomed…who then could be saved? Read the rich young ruler story…”What’s impossible for man is possible with God”…

The bottom line though is what difference does it make about what could have happened then? The bottom line is, are you saved now? Which, from watching your heart and life, I believe you are indeed.

Rejoice in your salvation!

Love your heart!

Hope this helps!

God bless,


There is so much more to this issue, but I suspect many others, including me, have wrestled with this same issue.

How would you have answered?

What questions do you have about eternal security?

Does this testimony resemble your own?

Share your thoughts!