I consistently encounter people who are desperate for friendships. They feel completely alone. I understand. I’ve been there in several seasons of my life and, as an Introvert, I’ve often felt left on the sidelines while others enjoyed the party.
Here is my best suggestion if you feel all alone:
- If you want more friends, be a friend…
- If you want more connections, connect with someone…
- If you want to hang out with people, invite someone to hang out with you…
- If you want to feel loved, love someone…
I’m not trying to be cruel or make this seem overly simplistic. I know what it’s like to feel all alone. I really do. At some point, however, you have to take some ownership of your situation.
It seems to me that many people who complain that no one cares aren’t investing in other people. It’s not that they don’t care to invest, or that they are bad people, they just haven’t initiated the first step. If you wait for other people to move towards you they may never move. Be willing to initiate, even if it is out of your comfort zone.
Do you need this reminder?
When is the last time you tried to make a new friend?
Ron,
Thanks for this. Being an introvert, I've always had a harder time reaching out and developing friendships. These suggestions are a great reminder for me that I can't sit and wait for someone to want to be my friend. I know the Lord has grown me in this, and continues to do so.
Hope that you have a wonderful week.
"If you want more friends, be a friend…" How true! How true! We forget simple truth very often. At times, I wonder whether people around us shower love and affection genuinely or in a phony style.
I need to start being the person whom I expect others to be. Thanks Ron for the message.
You are right, we often overlook the simple.