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When You Allow Others to Help You in Your Time of Loss or Pain

When you allow someone to help you.

When you are in pain.

When you are in the midst of a trial.

When you are overwhelmed with more to do than you know how to do.

When you suffer loss.

When others offer to help you, let them help. And don’t be afraid to ask for another person’s help.

Because there is a key life principle about helping others.

When others help you it may be therapy for them.

We often resist help.

We are too proud. We don’t want to be an inconvenience. We want to appear strong.

But we ignore the help the helper gains from the helping the one they help.

When an injured pastor helps another injured pastor. It often is helping the helping pastor heal.

When a cancer survivor ministers to a cancer patient. The helper’s heart heals a little too.

A parent who lost a child is best equipped to minister to someone who has lost a child. And it often gives a slight sense of relief to their loss.

It doesn’t remove the pain – yours or theirs, but it often helps one deal with pain better when they help others that are in pain. Sharing in each other’s pain is a biblical principle. (2 Cor 1:3-7, Eph 4:2)

I have only shared a few examples. You can probably add many others.

Many times we gain perspective on our pain when we help others deal with their pain.

Don’t be afraid of help.

Opening your life, your stories, your pain, your experiences to others who can help – helps.

Sometimes more than you know.

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  • Bill says:

    I so needed this now. Too much to do and
    To proud to ask for help, not any more

  • Matt says:

    This is one of the reasons why some of the most effective leaders in recovery ministries like Celebrate Recovery are those that have walked that road themselves.

    Shared experiences often open doors that are otherwise frustratingly stuck shut.

  • kathyfannon

    Years ago one of the ladies in our small group was going through a rough time, so we wanted to bring some meals to her. She, being a 'giver', resisted because it was uncomfortable for her to be the receiver. One of the women looked at her and said, "Please don't rob me of my chance to bless you." We brought meals and that phrase has stuck in my head ever since. (And been used by me more than once.)

  • bryankr

    Healing is often an elusive goal. We want, we need it, we know we need it, and yet…. I am coming to the conclusion that one of the main things that keeps so many of us from ever really wrapping our minds around salvation is too much "man-hood". Do it by myself, figure it out by myself, I don't need any help! I got this! I am not a big fan of this mentality, but mostly because it is taking me so long to get through so much of it. The more I learn to give up, the more I learn about freedom. I am going to need help doing it, though. Prayer partners help!