I talk with so many younger people, and some my age, who want to be in leadership. They may feel they’ve been passed up, haven’t been given their chance (or second chance) or they are patiently (or not so patiently) waiting for a place to lead.
I understand. If you are prone to leadership, or have your eye on being a leader, nothing quite satisfies you until you get to do what you think you’re ready to do. And, even what you feel God has called you to do.
If this is your story, in my observation, there are some common reasons you aren’t yet leading. Perhaps understanding them can help you in this season, so I’ll follow each potential reason with some advice.
Here are the 5 reasons I have observed of why people aren’t yet leading:
They don’t have anything or anyone to lead. – They might even say you would lead if someone gave them an opportunity.
My advice: Find something to lead! The world is full of problems. Choose one of them you are most passionate about and start leading. Motivate people towards finding or working a solution. Lead strong in an area of need with vision and passion and others will follow. We need you.
They are afraid. – They really want to lead, but they fear they may not have what it takes. That’s a common emotion for all leaders.
My advice: Press into the fear. Pray hard, lean strong on God, but lead. This is what leaders do. Leading takes people into the unknown. Remember it’s natural to be afraid. Be willing to walk by faith. No one needs a leader if the path is clearly defined and risk-free.
They had a setback and gave up. – They tried leading and it was hard. They got hurt. Perhaps they even failed, so they quit. Now they sit back waiting for others to lead.
My advice: Get up and try again. The best leaders have failed many times, perhaps more times than they have succeeded. That’s what makes them a success. Someone said success is a combination of what you learn through failures. Leaders try again and again until something sticks. They get back in the game. You’ll motivate others by your return to leadership.
They want to lead, but don’t think they know how. – They don’t think they ever learned the secrets of leadership. They have more questions than answers. They’re waiting until they have more answers than their questions.
My advice: Join the school of leadership. Leaders are all around you. And, every good leader is still learning too. The best leaders never quit learning. They are still figuring it out daily. So join in the fun. Watch, listen, read, and ask questions. It’s what leaders do. You can learn skills of leadership if you are teachable.
They think they don’t have authority to lead. – They feel they are in a stifling environment. No one is looking to them to lead.
My advice: Either learn to “lead up” – influencing people that are supposed to lead you – or find a place, which values your input. The world is changing and the newest and healthiest environments allow people to grow in leadership. Or, learn to lead within your own context. If you’re in a ministry, lead volunteers the best you know how. Or, find a cause outside your work environment and be a leader there. Be the best where you are today. The experience will shape you for future assignments.
Just a few thoughts. But, here’s a final one. If you feel you’re supposed to be a leader – and you’re currently not – there can be no more excuses. Lead. It’s what leaders do.
I never realized the amount of influence that I really had, until about 5-6 years ago. I got so frustrated with the direction we were heading, I decided to try leading up. While I’m not an expert at it, I found I really had a tremendous amount of influence over decisions about the direction of our ministry and staffing decisions as well.
Thanks Ron, good words!
You said it right, Ron. Lead up. And if you want to know more about leading up, or leading across, a great book to read (and possibly the workbook or video curriculum) is '360 degree Leader' by John Maxwell.
Thank you. Good suggestion.