I discovered a genius way to strengthen my marriage. And, it’s so simple.
I calendar everything.
I share my calendar with my wife.
- It makes her feel a part of my day.
- She feels more secure in the relationship.
- We have less miscommunication because I forgot to tell her something.
- When I get home, we have automatic points of conversation, because she knows what my day looked like.
For detail people, I use Google calendar and she has an app on her phone that syncs. It’s also good because she can add social events to my calendar without seeing first if I’m available.
For us, this works best. Her job is more structured than mine, so there aren’t as many calendar items in her day. This may be opposite for some couples. When Cheryl is “at work” that’s about all I need to know. I meet with many different people in many different place in a week, so keeping up with my schedule is more difficult without this.
Plus, Cheryl is detail-oriented. She wants to know the details. I’m much less so than her. Again, this may be opposite for some couples.
The key is to do what makes the marriage work best for both spouses. This is one that cuts out a lot of miscommunication and adds a sense of partnership to our marriage.