This is a guest post from Jeff Goins. Jeff is a writer, speaker, and blogger. Jeff has also become a friend and I’ve enjoyed the times to hang out with him. He’s a sharp young mind you should get to know. Check out his new eBook, You Are a Writer (So Start Acting Like One).
Here are some thoughts from Jeff:
I’ve spent too much time trying to prove something to myself instead of living into the reality of my identity.
I’ve labored and toiled, desperately trying to affirm in myself what I hope is true about me. That I’m good enough. That the world needs to hear my message. That what I have to say counts.
I’ve wasted years on this pursue and not spent nearly enough time grasping my identity as a child of God. A son. An heir.
And frankly, I’m tired of it. It’s exhausting and pointless. I’ve given up on proving things (to me or you) and started surrendering to who I am. In the process, I’ve learned two lessons:
Lesson #1: You are not what you do.
Your identity comes from some place deeper than your resume or list of accomplishments.
This is important, because in a culture of competition, it’s easy to get lost in the rat race. To chase the horizon and never catch it.
So many people live out of their false selves, constantly performing for an invisible audience and never feeling satisfied.
This will leave you dissatisfied and disillusioned. The way out is to trust what God says about you is true:
- You are accepted.
- You are righteous.
- You are forgiven.
- You are loved.
Lesson #2: What you do comes from who you are.
This is related to the first, but still worth stating, because so many people aren’t doing this. They’re living out of some fake place of pretense — a facade, a front. And everyone can see it, but them.
The way out of this is to stop lying to yourself. To admit you are who you already know you are:
- A writer.
- A dreamer.
- A plumber.
- A dancer.
Whatever it is that you were made to do, it’s time to stop hiding and start believing. And then, once you believe, it’s time to do it.
So many people are waiting for God to tell them what to do with their lives, but I believe God is waiting for those people to be who he’s made them to be.
Are you still living life with a performance mentality? Or have you finally given yourself to be who you are? If so, what are you?