Never recovering after a major personal mistake or failure is what keeps some people from ever accomplishing much in life. All of us make mistakes, but I am referring to the ones that cause major pain to yourself and those you love. Even this type of failure does not have to stop you from achieving your dreams and goals. A lot of bouncing back in life depends on your response and attitude after the fall.
Here are a few steps to help you get back on track after you have a major failure in life:
Apologize – If the error was your fault, then be humble enough to admit your mistake and ask forgiveness. Taking responsibility for your actions is never a bad thing to do. Spend some time with God and the people you injured seeking their forgiveness. God will grant it easily, others may not, but your job is not to control their response, but to offer a sincere apology.
Change directions – You can’t expect to recover if you keep repeating the same mistakes.
Build protection/accountability – Don’t be foolish enough to think it won’t happen again. It will unless you protect yourself. You have damaged your proprioceptors (Read this post) and depending on the size of the failure you may have to retrain yourself not to let the same mistake happen again.
Forgive yourself – Often the hardest thing to do is to let go of the guilt and move forward, but if God can forgiven you, why can’t you?
Stand strong – You will receive the same temptation again. You will have further opportunity to repeat the same mistakes. Do not allow circumstances to control your life. Find the power in Christ, yourself and others who believe in you to stay strong.
Set new goals – Dream again. Find new areas in which you can succeed. This may be one of the most important steps. Don’t skip it,
Don’t look back – Once you have sought and received forgiveness and built safeguards into your life, do not allow the past to control your destiny. Move forward with victory!
Are you allowing your past to control your future? Get moving towards a new day today!
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Ron, I continue to mine new gold as I discover more and more of your older posts. I only wish I had discovered your blog sooner, though I guess God knew I wasn't really ready to ingest the truths that I regularly find confronting me here.
Thanks, brother for your wisdom and your words. Know that they are eagerly devoured, even if I don't always care for the taste! But truth can sometimes be a bitter pill. Nevertheless, keep 'em coming!
i really like your post they are so inspiring .I hope thaT U PLAN TO HAVE ALOT MORE.
Good plan!
I used to let my past control my future. It was hard to get out of the victim role. I had to learn that even though I was a victim, I didn't have to stay a victim.
Now I celebrate that I am a victor and conqueror in Christ!
Really it is a wonderful post….. This will help those who facing some personal difficulty in life and also encourage them towards their goals.
Thanks Haneesh!
Great post! Thanks for allowing God to use His Word and real life experiences to use you in such a powerful way! Proud of all God is doing in and through you!!
Ron, you always bring great stuff to the table.
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Thanks for all the feedback.
Ron, great post as usual. I heard Rick Warren say that almost everything about the human body faces forward and the one thing that doesn’t teaches us that some things ought to be left behind!
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This is a great post to recovery. One of the biggest needs in the body of Christ is Building Protection and Accountability. In the Kindgom we do not have our own business but ultimately about our Father’s Business, doing the will of God. I am particularly encouraged and thankful for your post!
May God Continue to Bless You Richly!
Michelle
I was just directed over here by a @MichaelHyatt tweet, and I’m most glad. This is such essential advice, especially for those who fear that their go-getting got gone.
I’ll be following this blog!
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Amen, Ron. Within the last few months, I’ve pretty much been at each of these steps concerning the way I have damaged my marriage. I’m waiting now before God for Him to heal the heart and spirit of my wife.
Great post Ron and thanks for sharing!
Know the places you describe all to well…..let me share my mini testimony: What story is my life telling? My story is a simple – God can take a mess of a life with the deck stacked against it and redeem it!
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