I was at a gym recently on an elliptical.
At the entrance there is a table with sign up sheets for various machines. People reserve their space in advance a week at a time. On that particular day, there was no sign up sheet for Monday. There was a sheet for other days, but not for Monday.
What took place for the next 20 minutes was humorous, but illustrated a great principle.
Half a dozen gym members debated the missing sign up sheet:
Maybe Monday is a holiday.
It’s not a holiday that should affect the gym.
No, it’s not a holiday.
There may be an error
No, because they have Tuesday and Wednesday
I bet they’re saving that day for something special
Yea but they usually put a sign on the door
And what about us regulars?
It’s probably a private party.
I hate when they do that.
Has it happened before.
I think so.
It’s not fair.
We should complain.
After 20 minutes of similar dialogue, one wise person said, “I’ll just go ask.”
She did. It was a clerical error. Problem fixed. Problem solved. In a matter of minutes.
Unfortunately, I see this kind of thing all the time in leadership and life. Even in families and other relationships.
Sometimes…
- Rather than complain
- Rather than make up your own scenario
- Rather than stir gossip
Sometimes, all you need to do is ask.
Especially in relationships…relationships of all kinds…when it involves people…when miscommunication or misunderstanding is possible…and it always is…
Yes, yes and again YES !
thank you for this illustration !
Thanks
Twitter: bryankr
says:
I like the illustration, everyone was so busy teying to solve the problem by guessing, they forgot the easiest solution: just ask!
Yep. Exactly.