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More Than You Can Bear (My Most Searched Post)

It’s amazing than in just over a month one blog post has become the most searched post of all time.

God Will Allow More Than You Can Bear (Alone)

People have found this blog through search engines using phrases like:

  • Verse that says God will not allow too much
  • God will not put more on us than we can bear
  • Why can I not seem to bear this?
  • What am I doing wrong, God said He wouldn’t give me more than I can handle?
  • More than we can bear.

…and hundreds of other such phrases.

I think this indicates to and reminds me of a few things true of the times in which we live:

  1. People are hurting.
  2. People are looking for answers.
  3. This myth is wide spread.
  4. More than ever we need to rely on Christ and His strength.
  5. With Christ all things are possible.

Please know this, God will allow times of struggle greater than YOUR ability to handle it.  He allows these times so that you might learn to fully and completely rely on Him.  Apart from Him you and I can do nothing.  When you and I learn that principle and live accordingly we will be free to experience His power, which is perfected in our weakness.

What are you facing today that you cannot handle on your own?  Are you willing to give up control and trust completely in Christ?

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  • Susie says:

    In 2012 my husband went to prison for the third time and shortly after that I started to fall apart! I am a very hard worker and support three beautiful children on my own! I started reaching out to other people for my own comfort, started going out, and hanging around some people who would party! I have jeopardize my marriage so many times and have hurt my family with some of theses actions! I really do love my husband but I don’t know if there is any hope on us ever making our marriage work and being the happy family we used to be! He says he loves me with all his heart and he forgives me for letting him down and hurting him! But I ask myself these questions: am I the one at fault for these actions? Is there really hope tht we can get through this and be whole again?

    • ronedmondson says:

      it sounds to me like you've put up with a lot. What you did was wrong, but it doesn't seem to me your husband has much room to hold anything over your head. I think you're a saint in many ways. Yes, there is hope. I would suggest counseling, but you seem…from what you write here…very willing to work hard at whatever is needed. My question would be….is your husband willing. Seems to me he owes you big time for the dedication you've given him. Just an outside perspective.

  • CJ says:

    2010 and 2011 were two of the most difficult years of my life. My eldest son, at 15, developed an addiction to drugs and went into depression. I lived in a state of constant high alert and felt as though I was losing my mind on many days.
    Thanks be to God for his faithfulness because without him, I would have definitely not made it through in one piece. I called on Him many times and He filled me with peace. I trusted Him, that He was in control and that He had me and my son in His hand.
    I learned that as Christians, we aren’t promised an easy life and storms will rage. But we ARE promised a Comforter and a healer and a Master who is in control and who will never leave our side.

  • ronedmondson says:

    Good thought. Thank you

  • Kingzkid says:

    will Not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Rather

  • Nathan Lewis says:

    1 Corinthians 10:13
    There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

    • ronedmondson says:

      Thanks. Love the word temptation here… We often confuse it for the word trials.

    • Kingzkid says:

      We has humans put our self in overwhelming situations when God has provided ways to avoid and escape even the slightest trails in our lives..For he(God) knows our ways and thoughts in advance to our actions..So simply in conclusion God truly will now put more on us than we can bear .He(God) has bared it all on calvary for us all….

  • Karl says:

    You liken in a sense that while we have free will ……. all that happens good and bad is for God to teach us Humility and other Virtues. I do not believe that. A friend that needs to move her family into a low income apartment because she and kids were abandoned and it was a crack/meth lab? People out of work for years and all retirement and hoses gone?

    I do not understand your references. I have been faithful and diligent. I help others in more need than my family.

    I am a bit angry with God right now and need you to explain your thoughts better.

    I get on my knees and pray each day and night. What am I (we) doing wrong? Trust and faith only go so far. Then I can aome back and do it all over again? Whats your point?

    • ronedmondson says:

      Karl, you say "I…need you to explain your thoughts better". I don't know that you need me to do this. It sounds like my post just further complicated your anger towards God. You can be angry at me too, that's okay. I certainly didn't intend this post to make anyone angry, but that's a part of speaking, what I believe, is truth at times.

      My point is that when I've been faced with times I couldn't understand, times too overwhelming for me to handle, times where everything in me screams, "God, this is not fair", that I realize more in those moments that these things are more than I can bear…on my own. If I'm told that "God will not put more on me than I can bear", then I feel something is wrong with me, because I know I CAN'T HANDLE IT! And that's the point. I can't, but God can. God is in control, even when it seems He is not; even when it feels like He is not. This world is not perfect, it's fallen, it's not as God designed it, and the Bible says "in this world you will have trouble, but take heart, because I (God) have overcome the world". Some day we'll see that truth fully, when God does right every wrong. In the meantime, we have our faith and trust in Him. I realize that's an intangible when we are looking for something tangible, but that's what faith is…believing what we cannot see.

      You can certainly be angry about that…and I'll pray you continue to wrestle through it…but God is in control and my greatest prayer is that you will learn to trust Him even during the darkest hours. I wouldn't say you are doing anything wrong, but why not try this prayer? While you are on your knees, crying out to God for specific answers or resolutions to your problems, why not cry out what David said in Psalm 69:1, "Save me, O God, for the waters have come up to my neck!" Ask God not for the things you need, but for the peace to sustain you when those things don't seem to be anywhere. Also, read Isaiah 30:15-22. That passage has comforted me during dark times when I was looking for direction. Also, Psalm 121.

      You commented on the second post of this nature. Make sure you read the first:

    • Tonya says:

      I don't know if Ron responded to your post or not, but I do feel for your friend and situation. Today was my first day reading posts on scripture and hope that my reaction to you is respectful and helpful, although 21 weeks after your thoughts.
      I hope your friends is doing better by now. I think you have been a blessing to her and God has used you to help and speak on her behalf. I think your diligent prayers were answered because her and her family are alive, safe, and no longer near the meth lab. I hope that the low income apartment is safe, and temporary.
      As far as employment, retirement, and limited houses– yes, these are also out of our hands. I hope by now your prayers have been answered and directions more clear. I will include you in my prayers that you get specific signs of what God's will is for you in each situation, and that He will work through others who love you to offer countless options for you–ones you never considered before.

      • Tonya says:

        cont.d @Karl
        My personal experience and blessing as I felt distraught, not knowing what to do or where to go after getting a divorce and raising 2 kids on my own, was to not focus on being broke, on welfare, and living in a roach invested apt. Instead I had to end up going back to school, live off loans and on campus, getting my master's degree, getting a job teaching, and now living overseas with my 2 kids. We are so blessed and happy today. This process took over 9 long years and lots of prayer and help from loved ones who God sent to help and encourage me along the way. Focusing on each blessing every day and praying for God to pour them on me and my family was and still is evident.

        Please post again so anyone reading can see your update and how you and your faith are doing. I hope that your friend is doing well too!